“To be reliable is a greater compliment than getting loved. ”
~GEORGE MACDONALD (1824-1905)
There’s no good whining for a lack of trust,
When gossip’s our background,
Keeping confidences: that is one thing we must,
When we’re to be respected as a individual of one accord.
Is there a higher glory than to be trusted? The trust-worthy – the person worthy of being reliable – is somewhat rare in this world, where all information seems to have its price as a commodity of influence and standing. But the trustworthy person will serve kings and queens and heads-of-state, not simply dodgy bosses (Proverbs 22: 29).
Even as we find ourselves reliably informed and also a worthy vessel for containing ‘choice morsels’, we are granted further benefits of confidence. It’s no chance that guarding precious information is certainly ‘keeping a confidence’ – exactly where we are regarded as trustworthy, people have self-confidence in us. We are safe people. And safe people are those we all want to be around.
BECOMING AND BEING A SAFE INDIVIDUAL
A reliable person is a safe person to be around. They are admired for the priceless possession they offer free to all – safe refuge from the snares associated with precious information out on the open up market of gossip, hearsay and rumour.
It is never too late to become a person who can be reliable.
But first of all we must understand why it is we cannot hold these confidences; we need to know exactly why we betray confidences in the first place. We are prepared to cash-in by compromise, since we are needy somehow.
Becoming trustworthy is about holding the confidence, because we are safe within ourselves – we don’t require extra kudos or influence or even special praise. We have faith that something better is around the corner for having been found faithful. We also recognise the privilege involved in getting counted on. We put ourselves in the other person’s shoes.
Being a safe person means people can come to us and enjoy us. Likewise, we are blessed as they are blessed. God blesses us for having been a blessing; for having offered diligently, faithfully, unswervingly.
Being a worthy vessel for containing ‘choice morsels’ we are granted further blessings associated with confidence. It’s a beautiful feeling that people can be relied upon; that others can call upon us as if we have been home. Being a safe person may be one of the highest privileges in as being a member of humankind.
It really is worth the effort – the sacrifice – to be found trustworthy – each last bit.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.